Learning to LIVE Yes, There's More — 04 February 2013
Finding the Happiness We Deserve – Photographer Erik Kerstenbeck

Feature photo: Island of Oahu, Hawaii



One of the most wrenching decisions we ever make in life is leaving a long-term relationship that just isn’t working. When attempts at repairing and working out issues aren’t working, it may be time to examine moving on. We are emotional creatures, and when our hearts are tied to those of another, separating from that person can feel like an act of courage. It is not something most of us will take lightly, and many of us will struggle with our desire to stay in a relationship simply in order to avoid that pain. We may question whether the happiness we seek even exists, and we may wonder if we might be wiser to simply settle where we are, making the best of what we have.

Geothermal region around Rotorua, New Zealand

We may also almost think the idea that true happiness is not out there so that we can avoid the pain of change. On the other hand, we feel within ourselves a yearning to fulfill our desire for relationships that are vital and healing. Ultimately, most of us will follow this call, because deep within ourselves we know that we deserve to be happy. We all deserve to be happy, no matter where we find ourselves in this moment, and we are all justified in moving, like plants toward the light, in the direction that leads to our greatest fulfillment. First, though, we may need to summon the courage to move on from the relationship that appears to be holding us back.

Low Tide at Point Loma, California

Taking the first steps will be hard, but the happiness we find when we have freed ourselves from a situation that is draining our energy will outshine any hardship we undergo to get there. Keeping our eyes trained on the horizon, we begin the work of disentangling ourselves from the relationship that no longer fits. Every step brings us closer to a relationship that will work, and the freedom we need to find the happiness we deserve.

Erik Kerstenbeck, San Diego, California

Erik is an Electrical Engineer by trade but has been self studying photography for 30+ years startingwith an old Brownie Box camera given to him by his Dad. Erik thrives in all aspects of light, composition, and technical aspects of equipment and post processing techniques. His newest interest is High Dynamic Range photography, and infrared imaging. The world is full of beauty, and Erik and his partner Kathleen bring it to you with their vision. Contact Erik contact@kerstenbeck.com or follow him on Website,Blog, Twitter or Facebook.

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