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(Post by KAARINA DILLABOUGH)
I have spent most of my adult life choosing: the path less trodden, the people in need of inspiration and support, the places in my mind and soul that beckoned and the profession that has given me so much reward.
When I hear people say, “I have no choice”, I want to rush to their side and help them to realize: EVERYTHING is choice. As the saying goes: “Choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”
When people ask me, “What do you do?” I respond: “What do you need done?” Because if I can’t help them, I’m quite confident I can find someone who can.
But people like labels, so I say: “I’m a coach, mentor and muse. I’m the pat on the back, kick in the shins, neutral objective ally and accountability partner who’s in your corner and on your team, always helping you to become the best you can be.”
When we stop playing the blame game, and accept responsibility for our choices, decisions and actions, that’s when true growth happens. But growth isn’t always easy. That’s why it’s easier to blame external circumstances for our problems, rather than accepting and owning them as our own.
I lead a blessed life. YOU lead a blessed life. There might be times that you’ve lost sight of that. I’m here to remind you…to help you…to guide you.
My intention with this column, “Choice not Chance”, is to remind you of the power of your thoughts, and how those thoughts shape your reality, and influence each and every choice you make. Even to “not choose” is to choose.
When you accept and realize that you are the driver of your destiny, and not just a passenger on life’s ride, you will begin to see possibilities that were always there: you just weren’t seeing them. You will gain a sense of empowerment and pride that will propel you towards any goal you set. And we will talk about setting goals. Believing them. Achieving them.
I will bring a smorgasbord of information to your table, and I will ask you to heed the words of my own mentor, Jack Donahue, who said: “Take what I say and chew it around. If you don’t like it, spit it out. But at least chew it around for a while.”
And the information will be actionable. As a former Olympic level athletic coach, I know the power of visualization. But visualization alone won’t cut it. You will need to TAKE ACTION. The stories I will share will help you to first: decide. Then: do.
I have been an entrepreneur all my life, and it’s been a life of the highest highs and lowest lows. I know first-hand what it feels like to be handed defeat on a silver platter. I know what it’s like when the people you thought were your friends and allies are nowhere to be found when the going gets tough. I’ve created three companies from scratch, one of which I had to close after two and a half years of painful, groundless litigation. I know what it’s like to see all that you’ve built; crushed.
But more importantly, I know what it’s like to wake every day and realize: I’m creating the life I’m living. YOU are creating the life YOU’RE living. Let’s journey together.
Kaarina Dillabough, Amaranth, Ontario
Kaarina is a business/life coach living in Ontario, Canada. For over 25 years her high-voltage energy, expertise and experience has inspired those she has worked with to reach beyond their grasp, to attain great things in business and in life. A former Olympic sports colour commentator and coach, Kaarina parlayed her coaching skills from the gym floor to the boardroom, working with business owners to improve their profitability and prosperity. In doing so, she has seen people grow both personally and professionally. Kaarina is known as an inspiring motivational speaker in areas such as branding, marketing, business growth strategies, and personal growth and prosperity. She is a passionate, seasoned coach and accountability partner with a proven track record, who loves nothing more than helping people achieve their goals in business and in life. Check out her Blog or follow her on Facebook or Twitter. Email contact: kaarina (at) kaarinadillabough (dot) comTweet